tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post4479176634637936745..comments2023-06-14T09:47:19.626-05:00Comments on The Relentless Builder: Essential Pre-Marriage Tests: The Nigerian-American Edition | Featured: Ada EhiAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-53797382437417243642012-06-12T21:34:21.390-05:002012-06-12T21:34:21.390-05:00Michael: Ori mi wu but please don't lagimo! Th...Michael: Ori mi wu but please don't lagimo! Thanks for the encouragement o. It means a lot to me :-) Continue enjoying o jere ...<br /><br />LOL at "not the Nollywood one o." Definitely not that kind of spiritual research. That one compounds the problems that are already on ground. <br /><br />The spiritual is definitely a priority for me too, for the same reasons you mentioned. It comes before we even talk about anything on this list. But, the focus of this post was on practical things one can do. I believe God has His own part, and we have our own part to play too. The tests above are still important regardless.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-24616851307157324372012-06-12T21:27:49.664-05:002012-06-12T21:27:49.664-05:00Toinlicious: Yes, we threw out a few old stuff, a...Toinlicious: Yes, we threw out a few old stuff, and brought in some new ones. Glad you like it. Thoinx!<br /><br />LOL @ eyebrow glued to your hairline. Thankfully you didn't mean that literally :D I would have had the same reaction. I assumed there was more awareness about genotype issues. It is important to know pre-marriage at least.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-601103353976498692012-06-12T21:24:38.115-05:002012-06-12T21:24:38.115-05:00Naijamum in London: Your comment throws new light...Naijamum in London: Your comment throws new light on this issue. So, based on what you said, the more mature (or older) the bride, the less likely they are to carry out a thorough background test? That's interesting. I wonder if the same rule applies for matured / older grooms.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-19182641289903258902012-06-12T21:20:55.914-05:002012-06-12T21:20:55.914-05:00Miss Yellow Sisi Unspoken: LOL! I followed your &q...Miss Yellow Sisi Unspoken: LOL! I followed your "discovery" process and just pictured the look on your face when you saw "Featured Artiste." Yeah, that'd be me. You're welcome too!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-46931132289322853182012-06-12T21:19:25.238-05:002012-06-12T21:19:25.238-05:00Myne: Thanks a lot for sharing your own experienc...Myne: Thanks a lot for sharing your own experience here. What I believe you illustrated is that trust is important, but you must also ask the right questions. Shying away from these issues is a no-no.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-39787726760249395132012-06-12T21:16:16.506-05:002012-06-12T21:16:16.506-05:00Naija4Life: Looking for perfection is a useless q...Naija4Life: Looking for perfection is a useless quest. True. But, acquiring useful information about your soon-to-be partner, for example, is a wise move, and should be encouraged. Especially the health-related issues.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-37427463006970164752012-06-12T21:13:54.967-05:002012-06-12T21:13:54.967-05:009jaFoodie: It's funny that you should mention ...9jaFoodie: It's funny that you should mention that because not too long ago, I heard that the CIA gets a good chunk of its information from Facebook. And they don't even have to "try" to get the information. It's just sitting there, ripe for harvesting *smh* So, yes, in addition to formal background checks, social networks are helpful.<br /><br />The phenotype issue is not only restricted to those groups you mentioned o, but for sickle cell, I know they are disproportionately affected.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-289980105941985092012-06-12T21:04:59.055-05:002012-06-12T21:04:59.055-05:00Atilola: Yes, some of them still do. I doubt tha...Atilola: Yes, some of them still do. I doubt that it's limited to just Nigerians from the East sha.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-26282742320701436542012-06-12T21:03:30.791-05:002012-06-12T21:03:30.791-05:00Ginger: Bigamy is definitely practiced even though...Ginger: Bigamy is definitely practiced even though it is criminalized. I guess it is less serious than murder though. Just saying!<br /><br />Meanwhile, on the issue of those bank loans and living large, it is a way of life here o. People spending more than they earn. I didn't know Lagos had caught the fever too.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-20720965731309802272012-06-12T20:57:46.191-05:002012-06-12T20:57:46.191-05:00Nollywood Reinvented: Yes now. There is more to ...Nollywood Reinvented: Yes now. There is more to investigate (and more readily available tools too).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02741175042414216760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-65688369848836696682012-06-02T18:06:51.675-05:002012-06-02T18:06:51.675-05:00hmm...the song is what I'm here for today. X_X...hmm...the song is what I'm here for today. X_X. Okay, a bulk of the most-played song on my mp3 is from your blog I tell you. Motara(Oba Ni), Kefee (Beautiful), Elevation (MOdele ft IBK) and many others.<br /><br />Keep it going. I know I'll like this too.<br /><br />Okay lemme contribute *shines teeth*, for me I would add that Spiritual research is also key (not the one in Nollywood o). Asking God would sometimes uncover things which some of the afore-mentioned would not reveal.*Michael Onobote*https://www.blogger.com/profile/14315080568159024549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-87225088682650884072012-06-01T11:18:51.509-05:002012-06-01T11:18:51.509-05:00*looks around* I see we have renovated the house. ...*looks around* I see we have renovated the house. Not bad.<br /><br />I remember asking a guy that was 'on my case' for his genotype and he said he did not believe in such. Yea, my eyebrow was glued to my hairline too. Ko yemi rara. In this 21st century (i think i mentioned this on on of Ay's posts)Toinlicioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08672236565492184927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-3977116981477467802012-05-31T09:09:22.580-05:002012-05-31T09:09:22.580-05:00Background test is still carried out BUT I must sa...Background test is still carried out BUT I must say the background test is often less rigorous if the bride is quite 'mature'<br />In my experience - from what I have witnessed - if the bride is 30+, the family is often less selective.<br />xxxN.I.L (Naijamum in London)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15874463908664570341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-31337624955347348042012-05-30T23:47:02.475-05:002012-05-30T23:47:02.475-05:00Ahh I just cant miss your page...so i saw this pos...Ahh I just cant miss your page...so i saw this post title and look interesting so I clicked on it...read all through until I got to the feature artist and said to myself this must be Relentless and lo and behold it was...haha thanks for sharing as usual :)Ms. Yellow Sisi Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08882237190307123728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-90539888518286507752012-05-30T17:48:57.679-05:002012-05-30T17:48:57.679-05:00We did the Nigerian style, first two anyway. I ask...We did the Nigerian style, first two anyway. I asked him about his background including marriage, and credit report. Though our families were too far from each other to do individual assessment, I trusted him.Mynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595087387069634003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-82042507944675514982012-05-30T16:40:19.485-05:002012-05-30T16:40:19.485-05:00Whilst having a good knowledge about who you want ...Whilst having a good knowledge about who you want to marry is a good thing, it's important not to dig unnecessarily too deep otherwise you'll be looking for perfection which is rather a myth.Naija4Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535768349773752809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-76885638626698375932012-05-30T08:39:00.835-05:002012-05-30T08:39:00.835-05:00Background test isn’t as crucial these days, you c...Background test isn’t as crucial these days, you can pretty much figure out a person’s family history from there Facbook+TwitteR+ instagram+tumblr... my point is, we are overexposed and people don’t have to dig too far.<br /><br />On Genotype issues on America.... doesn’t the situation only apply to Blacks and South Americans?9jaFOODiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02591264337788562371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-8023502121438363822012-05-30T08:23:37.686-05:002012-05-30T08:23:37.686-05:00The easterners still carry out background test.The easterners still carry out background test.@ilolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18034184376612190658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-63298512560937878322012-05-30T07:57:21.797-05:002012-05-30T07:57:21.797-05:00Is Bigamy really that common in the states? Sad.
T...Is Bigamy really that common in the states? Sad.<br />That credit matter, I know it doesnt apply to Nigeria...yet but i really wish it would. Some bobos be walking around living large on bank loans.Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10294850491382303707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9007262862160462114.post-55784648649661614942012-05-30T07:09:15.703-05:002012-05-30T07:09:15.703-05:00lol see as the American list come long pass... cho...lol see as the American list come long pass... choiOge (NR)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12855820897071831855noreply@blogger.com