The Relentless Builder: Sex

Sex Education 101: At what age should you start teaching children | Featured Artiste: Moji Olusoji

Labels: Education, Moji Olusoji, Music, Sex

"Mummy, where do babies come from?" That's one of the dreaded questions parents have to answer at some point in their children's lives. Nigerian parents are not exempt, and inasmuch as our culture seems to treat such discussions as taboo, it is imperative that parents teach their children early on about sex. Why? Well, I can give you a bunch of reasons, but how about this one for starters: If you don't teach them, someone else will (friends, strangers, tapes that are marked "Dora the Explorer" but have a rather grown-up "Dora" in there, wearing a questionable looking "school uniform" and she's not teaching kids Spanish, if you know what I mean *trying to keep a straight face*). It's generally agreed that you should start talking to children in early childhood, but the question arises: what is the RIGHT age to broach the subject?

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No means NO | Featured Artiste: KingJames

Labels: Consent, KingJames, Music, Samsong, Sex

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I don't know how many ways a person can say "NO" to get the message across. But for the sake of sanity, let's assume that No means NO! In case you were wondering, I am referring to that dirty word, 'Rape.' However way you define it, it is non-consensual sex, i.e. whether the victim is a man or a woman, if he or she did not consent to the act, it is rape.

While I don't want to make this post an all-encompassing "let's-discuss-every-possible-aspect-of-rape" post, there is one particular excuse I have heard, one particular justification that irks me to no end, i.e. the victim was dressed provocatively. I mean, COME ON! Even if a person walks around the streets stark naked, you cannot and should not use that as an excuse to justify rape. I am all for decency in dressing (more on that later) and really advocate dressing the way you would want to be addressed (cheesy, I know, but you get my point), but we live in a diverse world and we are not all on the same moral frequency. If a woman (or man) says NO, just assume that the person really means NO and don't go any further.