Labels: Africans in Diaspora, Culture, Diaspora, Everything in Between, Nigeria, Nigerians in Diaspora
First of all, thank you to everyone who checked up on me while I was away. I appreciate it o :D
I am back from my "sabbatical" and have so much to say. But, I'll ease in gently.
Now for today's post.
I have heard people say this explicitly and at other times, it seems to be an idea that is generally held, but not expressed verbally. What on earth am I referring to? This idea that Nigerian women who live abroad (America, UK, etc) are more promiscuous than Nigerian women living in Nigeria. It seems to be an extension of the whole "village girls are more virtuous than city girls," except that it is 10 times worse.
This was not something I heard for the first time here in America. Nope. I had heard it over and over again when I lived in Nigeria. Watch Nollywood movies, and you'll see the same idea reflected in the characters.
Having lived here for more than 10 years, it still cracks me up when I hear it. Really? You're going to make that a blanket rule? You must be kidding me.
My opinion is this: Pesin wey go spoil go spoil regardless of where you live. In plain English, a woman (or man for that matter) will be promiscuous regardless of where they live: Nigeria, America, UK, Russia, etc.
I also think this stereotype is linked to the way Western cultures in particular are percieved, i.e. they are seen as more liberal and open-minded (maybe too open-minded) compared to our more conservative Nigerian (and generally, African) culture.
For men who go and import village girls from Nigeria on the assumption that they are more virtuous, I say "Good luck!" Many village girls don open eye well well. Don't be fooled.
I say treat people on an individual basis and don't make judgments without first getting to know a person.
What do you think? Do you agree that Nigerian women who live abroad are more promiscuous than women living in Nigeria? Kindly share your thoughts.
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P. S. The Fulani girl is gone for good. Yes, that's me replacing her in the profile picture. ;-)