Well, Hello! Sorry, I've been MIA for a bit, but I am back now. How una dey? Any special plans for Thanksgiving (it's next week o)? I plan to stuff my face, watch movies and sleep. Please tell me you've bought the turkey. You want to try guinea fowl this year? Ah, you're on your own o!
Ehen, so this topic has been swimming in my head for a while now. Arranged Marriages. The name alone has a negative connotation to it, like a person has no choice in the matter. But let's take a step back and look at it a bit differently. Just a bit.
Assuming you are not an under-aged minor, i.e. you're above the age of 18, you are considered an adult. Marriage is not for babies. Now, as an adult, you get to make adult decisions, including who you want to (hopefully) spend the rest of your life with.
I think that part of the negativity surrounding arranged marriages is that the families or persons doing the match-making or arranging do not consider the personalities or wishes of the man and woman at the center of everything. But, what if we fixed that?
One thing I have noticed is that as people get older, the number of things they desire in a mate shrinks significantly. So, the list of qualities a 21-year old would want in a mate would be significantly more than the same list for a 38 year old. So, my theory is that as people get older and are able to pinpoint exactly what they want, they will be more likely to consider arranged marriages, especially when their wishes/wants are factored into the whole matchmaking process.
What do you think? Would you ever consent to an arranged marriage? Yay or Nay?